It happened when Drama was about four. I’d just sold to Harlequin and the title of my first book was His Virgin Acquisition. So that word was being thrown around indiscriminately. A lot. Because we just talking about books.
Then one day he was looking at a letter book with animals. And he comes to the V. V is for “V-V-V…Virgin!”
I remember calling my mom later and saying I’VE HARLEQUINNED MY CHILD!
The thing is, I’m destined to be a hideously embarrassing mother, no matter how you slice it. 1) I have an extremely cheesy sense of humor and am liable to burst into song with little to no notice. 2) Yeah, the sexy books.
Kids don’t like thinking of their parents as sexual beings. Or even people who know about sex. I remember this from when I was a kid. So once my kids figure out what I write I feel it’s going to be kind of a rude awakening. No, it’s not an autobiography but you know, it displays a bit of knowledge on the subject. Sex is not the be all and end all of my books, or indeed any romance novel, but if the media can’t separate the SEX from the book, I don’t expect kids to. (side note, I think the media is run by 13 year old boys, but that’s another post altogether)
Obviously I’ll be a source of embarrassment, but I think I would have been no matter what. And yes, there will be the occasional gaffe. Like my 4yo knowing having virgin be the representative word for the letter V. Or my 2yo carting my romance novels around like they’re a favorite doll. (she thinks they’re ‘pwetty’)
But there are other things I hope they get from this, my wonderful and unique career path.
I hope they learn that love is important. That glorifying love is nothing to be ashamed of.
I hope they learn they don’t have to apologize for what they read. For what they like.
I hope they learn that sex is beautiful (in the right context) and to be treasured, not giggled over, or played for laughs. (let’s face it, I’d rather have them learn about sex from a romance novel than from Jersey Shore.)
I hope they learn to follow their dreams, no matter how impossible they seem.
So for all the mistakes I make, I hope I can cancel some of them out.
And V is virgin. He wasn’t wrong. So…at least he knows the alphabet.