Happy 4th of July (to all the American moms out there)!!! Today’s post is not as celebratory as it is relevant to the Rome household. But know that as you’re reading this, we’re probably either getting ready to go or are currently at the new park which is just a few blocks from our house (YES!!) playing on the playground, getting our faces painted, bouncing in bounce castles, and more. =)
No matter whether you’re the mom who’s always outwardly smiling or the mom who lets it all hang out (emotions, that is), there are times when the best thing you can do–for yourself and for your children–is to look to outside inspiration, take a moment, and breathe. I will honestly say that I need that perspective. My kids are truly wonderful and I love them *so much* (picture me holding my arms out to my side as wide as they can get), but there are days when WonderGirl is biting SuperGirl and no one listens to me and time-outs don’t even work and the heat from no AC is driving everyone berserk (okay, this was yesterday), and the control that I thought I had as Mom just doesn’t mean anything to them. I read a wonderful book when we were pregnant with the oldest called CONFIDENT PARENTS, REMARKABLE KIDS (I really need to read this again now that I’m actually a parent), and the greatest piece of advice I can recall is to remember that (and I paraphrase) kids are not trouble-makers; they are simply kids in trouble who need your help. I try to remember this when it seems I’ve lost all parental authority. I also ran across this the other day and thought I would share–because it made me smile and because I know I just need to relax and focus on treating them as kids instead of having control of the situation all the time. Perspective. That’s what it’s all about. =)
Finally, a friend sent this to me, and I thought our readers might be interested. No matter wherever you are (well, unless you’re in Australia, because I think it’s pretty cold there), I’m sending you cool air-conditioned thoughts!
“Kindle INDIEpendence Day (by YA and MG authors)! Do you love your Kindle? Does your kid love it, too?
Deadline to enter is Saturday, July 6!“
I’m Elise Rome, AKA Midnight Mama because I’m usually burning the midnight oil. If SuperGirl (3, with a speech delay) and WonderGirl (1, my very own hip attachment) aren’t getting up in the middle of the night, then I’m busy working on writing and writing-related business until morning…usually 5 am or so. Both my husband and I stay home with the girls (he’s a writer, too! www.lukasholmes.com), but usually I’m focused on them throughout the day and only get started working until after 8pm when they’re both in bed. I’m a former Texan now living in Colorado who desperately misses no-snow winters, and my parenting goal is to raise my daughters to be strong, intelligent, and independent women…much like the heroines I write, as a matter of fact. I’m a recovering perfectionist, recovering procrastinator, and perpetually aspire to keep the house clean (because it never actually is). When I’m not chasing around my daughters or adoring my cooking/cleaning/diaper-changing husband of 8 years, I write historical romances about women who fascinate me and men who somehow always remind me of Rhett Butler, the first literary hero who captured my heart. www.eliserome.com